N:rem Sleep System - My Sleep Aid Trial Review

PLEASE NOTE: THIS IS NOT A "PAID FOR" REVIEW. The thoughts and experiences outlined in this product review are an accurate and genuine reflection of my experience using the N:rem Sleep System and have not been influenced in any way.

Like many sufferers of fibromyalgia I haven't had a really good night's sleep for many, many years. Even before I was diagnosed my fitful sleep would annoy my wife and keep her awake - which resulted in lots of odd bruises on my shins and arms! My wife described sleeping with me as "like sleeping with someone in the throes of a never ending epilectic seizure!"

It got so bad that most nights saw me banished to the spare bed where I could thrash and gurgle and snore and talk and shout and kick and moan to my hearts content. But of course I wasn't content and sleeping like that certainly took it's toll on my health and my marriage.

In the early days it was simply a matter of me being unaware of what I did in my sleep - I don't remember doing any of the things my wife told me I did -  but I do remember how incredibly tired I was, even after a full night's sleep - which for me meant about five or six hours, max. More recently it hasn't simply been the things I do in my sleep, I've had the extra burden of chronic pain keeping me from getting to sleep or waking me during the night, all of which adds up to a whole mess of exhaustion and irritability and stress - and with the stress comes the added pleasure of anxiety at bedtime - 'Will I get to sleep?' 'What if my pain wakes me again?' and so on. It's a vicious cycle.

Living with a chronic pain condition is bad enough in itself. Getting through the days is exhausting and when the nights offer no respite from the pain it's easily understandable how some fibromyalgia 'victims' become depressed to the point of almost being suicidal.

Over the years I have tried so many different sleep aid products - none of which have ever worked. From large quantities of alcohol to anti-snoring strips to specialist pillows and mattresses, I've spent a fortune trying, and failing, to get a good night's sleep.

So when I received an email via the FibroMen website from a company asking me to trial  their 'Sleep System' I was sceptical to say the least, but I've tried almost everything else on the market, so why not give their 'free trial' a go?

The very next day my trial product arrived at my door! A big black box stuffed with five single bed width foam 'toppers' of different densities and colours  (2 x super soft and 1 each of soft, medium and firm ) designed to be placed on top of my existing mattress in a configuration suited to my particular conditions - hip pain and lower back pain.
 
And so began my ten day trial of the product that claimed to provide sound, restorative, deep sleep to chronic pain sufferers like me.

Setting the bed up was really easy - even for me - simply place the colour coded, different densities of foam tablet down the length of your bed in the configuration best suited to your pain areas. The leaflet that came with the product provided three options for back pain, lower back pain and hip pain. For my first night I used the lower back pain configuration.

The first night provided me with a decent night's sleep (for me) only waking twice but with some discomfort from my hip pain - the tablet 'toppers' were configured for lower back pain so I suppose that was to be expected and quite normal for me. I did get a feel of the differing densities of foam but overall it was a good night's sleep. The next day I found myself moving around quite freely - feeling almost sprightly. The third night provided me with the most comfortable night's sleep I'd had for many years and left me really positive, but I changed the configuration of the tablets to one designed to help with hip pain for night four and it wasn't a good move - I woke several times with severe lower back pain and (surprisingly!) some pain in my hip and that left me quite despondent. For night five I switched to the configuration for general back pain and it's been that way since - for a reason:

For me the configuration for general back pain has provided me with the best sleep I've had in years!

I still have pain during the day. This sleep system is not a cure for fibromyalgia - but it doesn't claim to be. This sleep system has worked for me in two ways

1. I no longer wake during the night in absolute agony, and
2. I no longer wake during the night FULL STOP!

I can go to bed at midnight and not wake up until my alarm clock goes off six, seven, eight - even nine hours later - I've NEVER been able to do that.

I can go to bed in absolute agony and still fall asleep quite quickly - because the mattress is now so comfortable - and not wake once during the night because of my pain.

When I wake my pain is still there but I don't notice it so much as it's not as bad as it has been in the morning, and getting out of bed is no longer the arduous task it was two weeks ago. As I go through each day I feel my pain building to the point it was at before the trial but I feel so much more able to bear with it knowing that when I go to bed I'm going to get some respite from it.

The absolute beauty of this sleep system is the fact that you can configure the foam tablets in whatever way gives you most comfort and relief. I had a couple of nights where I got it wrong, but it was easily fixed the next day and I know that if the current layout stops working I can have a go at shuffling the tablets to find the right comfort level for me. Quite simply it's brilliant!

So, overall, the sleep system has worked for me and I'm so thankful that Elise from N:rem - the company behind the system - contacted me.

I do have one note of caution to those thinking of investing in the system - and it is an investment because the system doesn't come cheaply - use the free trial first. 

What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another - we all know this to be a fact with fibromyalgia! If you use the trial and find it helps you then, if you can afford to, buy the system. From my experience with the company, and from reading the reviews on their site (and other review sites) their customer service is first class and there are options to enable you to afford the full system if you're on a limited budget. Take a look at their site and decide for yourself, but I have no hesitation, based on my trial, in recommending the benefits of the N:rem Sleep System. 

Do You Want to be in a Book About Fibromyalgia?

We've been approached by author Cris Williams to help her source respondents for a new book she is currently writing which will seek to raise awareness of chronic pain conditions - fibro, IBS and so on - and get the message out there about how it affects each and every one of us.

The writer is looking for responses from anyone touched by Fibromyalgia - male and female patients, carers, partners, children and even doctors - to enable her to write from all perspectives.

If you're interested, or know of someone who might be willing to complete a short(ish) questionnaire, please email voices4chronicpain@gmail.com in the first instance.

For my part I have already received the questionnaire and it looks relatively straightforward from a patient's perspective - how it affects my day to day activities, how I feel about the illness etc etc.

I have also roped in my long suffering wife and her questionnaire from a partner's perspective is equally straightforward!

The questionnaires can be completed in your own time and total anonymity is guaranteed if you wish it. (Never one to shy away from these things I'm having my name in huge letters across anything used in the published tome!! - after all we must all play our part in raising awareness of this hideous condition!!)

So, please, step up, email the writer and get your, your partners, carers, childrens voices heard.

Email voices4chronicpain@gmail.com

Your Stories - Fibro From a Partner's Perspective (Guest Post)

Fibromyalgia. It's a very difficult illness to deal with. I can say that in all honesty as I know the pain of fibromyalgia and all of the misery and suffering it, and its associated conditions, can bring. 

There are so many blogs about fibro, mine included, that are written by, and therefore from the perspective of, fibro sufferers. But what is it like to be a partner or carer of a fibromyalgia patient?

It's refreshing to find a blog that shares the story from a partner / carer's point of view. This is Tim Clevinger's story:

FIBROMYALGIA - It Affects Men Too - AS SEEN BY A HUSBAND / CARER -
 
"In February of 2006, we had our first child, Gabriel. My wife had to have an emergency induction, and he was born four weeks early. I knew this procedure would have a physical effect on her, but what came next, I knew would have longer lasting repercussions. We became pregnant with our second child six short months after Gabriel’s birth. 

The stress of having two young children within fifteen months was difficult to bear at times. We were brand new parents to one child, and before we could even grasp parenting, we had a second child. 

At first I thought stress and sleep deprivation was causing her pain. I always assumed that time would heal, and she would return to be the active, stress-free person I grew to know and love. This was not the case. She was getting worse with no clear cause. 

Needless to say, it was an emotional time for us. She would have regular doctor’s appointments and they all told us the same thing, “Time will heal. Take medication.” This wasn’t an appropriate solution. She only had the option to take some over-the-counter medicine and rest which only subdued the pain, not relieve it.

Before long, we had our third and fourth children. I think the last pregnancy is what triggered her in a downward spiral. It wasn’t only just the pain that was taking its toll; it was also mood swings and depression. So many days I would come home from work to find her crying upstairs in our bedroom because of the pain. All I could do was hold her and reassure her. 

I couldn’t empathize with her pain. She resented me for that. What could I do? I felt helpless. I hated it. The person I love most in this world was being attacked and there was nothing I could do about it. 

The strongest person I’ve ever known is crying to me for help. Many nights I would cry while she slept; praying to a God I’m not sure exists in the hopes that someone or something will hear me. She does not know this until now.

I tried, and still try to help around the house more, and help out where I can. I like to think that my efforts make a difference, but her constant painful cringes and crying tell me otherwise.

In December 2012 she found a doctor that solidified the notion that this in fact was a condition. Finally!!! Now we have a plan, and we have a means of controlling it. Unfortunately there is no cure for chronic pain and fibromyalgia. I wish I could take the pain from her.

I know she’s strong enough to fight for her well-being. She can now take part in physical therapy, and she is always finding natural remedies and ways to manage her pain. 

The person she is today is a complete 180 from the person she was a year ago. Her mood swings are non-existent, and her depression is manageable. I know that if she can fight through this, then I can fight with her. I will never truly understand her pain. Helping her, and supporting her is the best that I can do. I can only hope that others that suffer with this physical affliction can find their strength. Every day my wife impresses me, and every day I admire and love her that much more for her strength."

So, you see, fibromyalgia affects everyone and sometimes it's very difficult for us patients to fully understand what our partners are going through, especially when all we can focus on is our own pain.

This "Your Stories" feature is reproduced with kind permission from an orginal post by Brandi Clevinger on her blog Being Fibro Mom  and was also shared as part of FibroFiday at Fibro Blogger Directory
If you care for a fibromyalgia sufferer you can share your perspective too - just click here.